Comments on: Do you think adoption is unhealthy for children?

By: Andraya

Andraya — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 21:30:25 +0000

I think that adoption has the potential to be unhealthy. More so than keeping a biological family together. Adopters who put their own needs ahead of the child and adopters who are not well informed about adoptee related issues are the biggest reason for my answer, imho.

By: MikeyG

MikeyG — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 11:07:39 +0000

I’m beginning to think so. Too much unnecessary pain, indeed. But I’d still like to believe that not everyone is doomed to failure.

By: jessica300

jessica300 — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 21:37:34 +0000

Do you think adoption is unhealthy for children?

I think adoption places the person adopted at a very high risk of living a lifetime with some very serious emotional burdens. This is also true of the majority of women who have lost their children to adoption.

The fact that there are so many people who have suffered so much grief and loss and continue to suffer from separation is the reason I strongly support biological/blood/natural/”what ever you want to call it” – family preservation first and adoption as a last resort option.

I do question the $1.4 billion statistic simply because from what I know this statistic is from 2002:

“Kim Park Nelson, a Ph.D. candidate in American Studies at the University of Minnesota , noted that in 2002, Marketdata Enterprises of Tampa, Florida placed a 1.4 billion US dollar value on adoption services in the United States , with a projected annual growth rate of 11.5 percent to 2004.”

It certainly must be much more than that today.

The fact that the adoption industry in the US is unregulated is a big problem.

“Why else”

My own personal history or having lost my son to adoption and the profound effect it has had on me. I’m only beginning to learn how it has effected him, but it’s obviously not been all sunshine and roses. We are statistics, but nobody seems to care if it reflects negatively on adoption.

By: Robin/Nina

Robin/Nina — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 08:10:34 +0000

I don’t think that adoption is unhealthy for children if they are coming from bad family situations. I helped someone with an adoption of her baby to a couple that I knew that couldn’t have children. The child grew up with a lot of love and guidance and has turned out to be a lovely christian mother herself. If she had stayed with the biological mother she would have been taken away at some time and put in foster care because her mother ended up in prison for drugs. So with this in mind don’t you think that she had a better chance with her adopted parents?
I work with children at an alternative school and a majority of our students come from homes where their parents are either alcoholics or drug addicts, along with a lot of their parents have served time in prison yet the keep getting their kids back after they have been removed from their homes. So you see where I am going with this, these kids will probably not have a chance to pull themselves out of this cycle and they too will do the same to their children.

By: Joy M

Joy M — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 08:19:47 +0000

Yes, I do , although I sometimes think it is better than the alternative, depending on the situation, but I think all too often people give up their children under the false pretense that adoptive parents can give them more, and perfectly capable parents are separated from children to the child’s detriment

By: a healing adoptee

a healing adoptee — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 22:49:01 +0000

I don’t think adoption is unhealthy, but i had a wonderful home enviroment. My adoptive parents supported me in contacting my birth family. They very much encouraged me to reach out to my birth mother. I feel it depends on the home enviroment. Don’t get me wrong, i competely understand that there are cases of abuse, that some adoptees deal with a lot of issues because they are given up at birth. I just can’t say it’s unhealthy across the board, because there are adoptees out there that are very happy with their adoptive families. I like this forum because it has broken my bubble of all adoptions are successful and every adoptee is happy. I understand now that there are some cases that this does not happen.

By: Amie M

Amie M — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:47:17 +0000

Ok, first of all, there are many out there that is adopted and I dont think they are crazy loony people out there. I am aopted and think that i have turned out pretty good for my self. I am marired have a daughter and have a great house and my husband is working. Lets see, my brother is adopted and so is my sister and they are pretty well off. They have jobs, married and have jobs. So, do you think that maybe you need to look into this more. Liek someone said about the kids that didnt get adopted what happen to them And what about the ones that have “great” families and do the samething? So to say that not all adopted kids are bad. So, what if they had easting disorders, add, and maybe commite suicide, dont have the people out there have some kind of problems but we dont put that on here!!!!!

By: Baby Girl

Baby Girl — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:06:48 +0000

No I don’t. If a parent I don’t think a parent should give their child up for adoption but If they do then that baby probally wouldn’t have had a good life with it’s birth mom. And It could have a chance of getting a good family. ?

By: dj

dj — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:38:09 +0000

So do you think kids growing up in an orphanage is better.

By: APV

APV — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:56:15 +0000

Hmm, I see you’ve created lots of enemies…

All I have to say that while it very well might be a flawed system, particularily the foster care system, we don’t know of a better one. There isn’t a magic wand to make things perfect….

I think your passion is better suited to possibily preventing unwanted pregnancies, advocating for birth control….Harness your passion and find a way to help….Especially rather than hurting people’s feelings and advocating here….