how can i stop my wife from abusing drugs and alcohol?

Tallfox
#1. September 8th, 2009, at 11:37 AM.

Get her into the best rehab hospital you can afford.

Innocent man
#2. September 10th, 2009, at 9:25 PM.

Take her to a rehabilitation center and tell her that it is for her own sake that she should do that.

painintheass
#3. September 11th, 2009, at 8:47 AM.

first, know why she is abusing the drugs and alcohol
second, talk to her, tell her you want to help because you love her
third, help her. understand why she does it

zaffaris
#4. September 12th, 2009, at 7:10 PM.

You can’t force an addict to get clean. It truly is something that they have to want for themselves. All you can really hope for is that she reaches a point where she wants to turn herself around; but if she can’t, you can’t let her take you down with her.

incredible_intellect
#5. September 14th, 2009, at 1:43 AM.

Pretend that you are hooked on them as well and indirectly let her know bout’ the side effects.

elena
#6. September 14th, 2009, at 1:45 PM.

Don’t do that. Don’t leave her! What she needs is love. Show her as much love as you can give! If you both try you’ll make it. Good luck!

Alex Trusk
#7. September 16th, 2009, at 3:35 PM.

You can have faith that she will be back on her feet, but in rest, there’s not much you can do. Alcohol and drugs are just like guns, they kill! You should really talk to her and be with her when she needs you. Tough luck man.

naph8it
#8. September 17th, 2009, at 12:02 AM.

i hope these help i nearly lost my sistrbecause of that crap

it will work out mate, cheers

tggrbounce9
#9. September 19th, 2009, at 12:22 AM.

I wish I had a good answer for you. Personal experience… they can not be helped unless they want help. All the NA’s in the world will not work unless they want them to. Sad to say but you know what your option is… I feel for you and I do know what you are going through. What you are going through now is killing you and if you would rather end up being hurt then staying with her is what you need to do. If you want to survive and be the person you want to be then you have to let her go and let her do what makes her happy because obviously it is not being with you. Do you have kids togther? If you do, just think about it if not then forget I asked Good luck to you

flasher
#10. September 21st, 2009, at 9:24 PM.

What is being suggested to you is ‘tough’ love. YOU can attend something like alanon where you will learn and share much…you are as sick as she is by involvement. You might learn from others how to help yourself and her in an effective, healthy way.

WUO
#11. September 24th, 2009, at 5:25 AM.

She needs to admit to “herself” she has a disease and it isn’t her fault. Get her to a rehabilitation facility. Don’t give up on her. Best of luck to you and your wife.

MissKathleen
#12. September 26th, 2009, at 10:50 AM.

You could gather her friends and family together and confront her about her alcohol and drug abuse. Explain to her that you love her but she needs to go into a rehab center and you’ve made all the arrangements to admit her that day. Hopefully, she has insurance for a rehab hospital. If not, perhaps she could go to counseling as an out patient once a month. That also is expensive though.

Hearing the truth from all her family and friends should make her realize that she has a problem. Good Luck!…..)(

Thoughtfull
#13. September 28th, 2009, at 3:11 AM.

Well friend, If you live in the United States of America, there is absolutely nothing you can do at all yourself, because woman have equal rights to men, and if she wishes to abuse herself then that is her right with respect to the equal rights amendment for women.

We as Americans cannot even raise our voices to our spouse now days with out the possibility of going to jail if your neighbor calls them for disturbing the piece. If she becomes physical with you I can only suggest that you do not become physical back, as you will end up behind bars.

Although through God Almighty everything is possible, and I would take this problem to Jesus Christ through prayer, as I know that I believe in God, and I believe in prayer.

If you do not believe in Jesus, or God than I certainly respect your right not to, but if you give Jesus a chance, I feel very positive that he will never disappoint you, and help you with this problem.

Brian Matthews
#14. September 30th, 2009, at 3:35 PM.

First of all, allow me to share my sympathy for you and your wife. I can tell that you’re a caring person and that’s part of maintaining a stable relationship for any period of time. From what I’ve gathered from your story, it seems that you truly care a whole lot about your wife and what could happen if this problem is not stopped, and you need advice handling the issue.
Secondly, if you stop caring for her she will only get worse. People that become addicted to drugs and alcohol usually have their reasons behind the substance abuse. Since this all started before you came along, you must talk to her and find out when she started abusing drugs and why. She needs to know that you care and love her. I suggest calling a drug abuse councilor and scheduling an appointment with her to get the help that she needs. Don’t let her start a program and quit, you must encourage her in every way possible and keep an eye out for symptoms of withdraws/cravings from substance so she wont be in a situation where she has no control.
I’m 18 years old but have had psychical addictions to pills since I was about 12. Amphetamines (adderall) are dangerous and it took a really special friend to show me I was killing myself and letting my family down every day. Finally I got off of everything and remain clean for the last 5 months or so. But back to your wife, I really wish you and her the best of luck and PLEASE feel FREE to contact me with ANY questions, comments, or to ask my opinion! Hope to hear back, please inform me how everything goes!