How Should I Act About My Boyfriend Being an Alcoholic?
Question by SUNSHiNE: How should I act about my boyfriend being an alcoholic?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and he has always drank. We were apart for a short period of time, and during that time he drank… A LOT!! There would be mornings he would wake up and still be drunk and start drinking again. We can go out and he can drink SO much more than other people and still not be drunk. I think he has a problem. I have researched this A LOT over the last few days, and it seems likely. When I mention it to him he always says that he is fine and he doesn’t have a problem. Even his friends that he has hanged out with for 6 years or longer have slowed their drinking down and he doesn’t understand why. I know that I can’t MAKE him admit to having a problem, and I also know that there is nothing I can do to help him other than support him. My question is, am I just suppose to act like I don’t care and that it doesn’t bother me? I have already stopped nagging him about how much he drinks. He will occassionally ask me if I think he has a problem and I always answer with “Me deciding if you have a problem doesn’t help you any, you have to decide for yourself”. How should I act?
Any answers will be greatly appreciated! Thank in advance!
I have already given him an ultimatum: Me or the alcohol. I just can’t bring myself to leave him. He has been with me through all my problems, my pill addiction, my mom’s death, and other things. I would be a total bitch if I just left him.
I don’t want to nag at him about it. I feel that will only make it worse. I have recently started acting like it doesn’t bother me. Is that the right thing to do, or should I try something different?
Also, he is NOT abusive physically or emotionally.
Best answer:
Answer by postres20022000
Either get a new BF, or accept that he is a alcoholic and maybe always will be. OR give him a choice, You or the alcohol, or rehab.
Answer by I heart beets
if you truly care about him, talk to his family and try to get him some professional help. his addiction problem is bigger than you, bigger than his family, and bigger than anything you can imagine. it’s only going to get worse if he can’t even admit it.